Uh, I don't know about these legal things ... but call your L now.
I was talking to someone who may not be from your state last night, but it seems in their state, if she got preggers while you were M ... she gets support money from your a$$.
Sounds like a very bad dream if that could be true. An instant D sounds like the best D right now!!! Better yet, a backdated one!!! Hopefully with your S in place already this is not a concern. This makes me think of the good old days when I drank for no reason.
I think since you're legally separated you should be protected, but DO check with an attorney on that paternity/child support question just to be safe. I do know that in some states, ANY child born in the marriage is assumed to be the H's legally.
Today W began pouring her heart out to me, she couldn't look me in the face but alot of things came out over the course of a half hour.
- W is keeping the baby. - W loves the kids and hasn't been around due to crippling depression, told me she can't even get out of bed at times. - W cleans the house, makes appts for the kids and other stuff to help ME out. - W admits she screwed up in a huge way and is not able to stop herself.
Then the alien appeared...............
ILYBNILY Going to continue to support OM as a stay at home father. OM will be a "pretty good dad" OM is very excited to have this baby.
It was a strange conversation, easy to listen, say little and validate.
This will continue to get stranger before she gets better I'm sure. - W misses her parents very much but is afraid to reach out to them.
Wow, W sounds like she is way out in left field. Kinda like la la land. OM to stay at home. Does he have any job skills? This is her desire to have herself support baby and him?
One day lawless she will wake up and realize what she has done and created. It will be a rude awakening.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
I just read your whole thread. I am sooo sorry to hear of your latest developments. It sounds like you are doing well though. I am not sure I would have been so put together like you. Whenever my H said to me We need to talk. That was the first thing that came to mind. I thought he was going to tell me that the OW was pregnant. That was my nightmare over and over.
What goes through these WAS's minds? They are completely clueless.
I am glad to hear that you are doing well. I will pray for you and your children. Hopefully, they will do ok through all of this. The only concern that I have would be them thinking that their mother left them and had another. I would probably opt not to see her. That is so bad for a child to think. But they do. My D8 (almost9)felt that way when my H left and there was not another baby involved. Kids at this age are so intuitive.
That is one thing that I have noticed.
Good luck to you and your Children. You will be in my prayers.
((((((Hugs)))))
Mimi
Bomb 3/31/2007 Moved out 04/22/2007 Moved back in 06/11/2007 Wants to stay and try 09/04/2007
One day lawless she will wake up and realize what she has done and created. It will be a rude awakening.
Sounds like she is waking up. Now she is b/w a rock and a hard place. Don't know about any one else's spouse, but mine is really good a playing the martyr role....he must make the best out of what he has chosen etc. True, but why not get a little help and make the changes needed?
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
I was thinking late into the night and realized that this is a baby step. I think she may be peeking out and I hope she sees that I harbor no ill will towards her. If she is waking up I think it's way too early, she will have to do it all over again. I was also thinking of the jealousy that my kids may feel when the baby is born and of the jealousy the baby will probably have when it grows up.
I am going to keep the course of being friendly because of the kids but I find it sort of tough because I look at her and there's nothing, I am not even feeling like I do when I see a friend. W has a long way to go to repair a lot of damage.
I did talk to my L and she says I am safe with the LS because of the wording we used but she felt as I do it's time to push the big D forward.
It's amazing the extreme damage that a human being can cause.
