He's still with her, and I'm moving on...

[Hope_11]

Thanks Lin. I really appreciate your comments. It is nice to hear a success story especially in your case because your sitch seemed so dim at one point.

so when OW got her hands on him she really dug in deep...distance was my friend...she lived in another state and she couldn't move due to child custody issues...he could have moved but before doing so and marrying her he came to his senses and realized that she was not what he wanted to spend his life with

Distance has not been my friend. OW convinced my H to buy a house together and for him to move 3 hours away in a months time. I don't think that my H has any intentions of marrying OW. He is just with her so he doesn't have to be alone.

she would do whatever he said (according to him, I think she would have changed with the vows, but that is my feeling)...

I bet this is common characteristic of all OW. I know that my H and her only discuss things when he wants to. He makes comments like she knows better than to ask that. I agree things will change if they get married. Actually, I think things will change once we get divorced.

So my point....sorry this is so long...is that one never really knows how these crazy things end up...I came to the point of moving on...but I always KNEW that as long as neither of remarried there was always that very sliver of a chance...and when I had let go of that after about 16 months...and really let him have it...let him know I was done...and walked away from him (for once)....two months later he was moving back to town and about 4 month after that we were together again...

I agree. I am living day by day. I have no idea what I will be doing in a year, but I let my H have it 2 weeks ago and I walked away from him after 7 months of dealing with this. I'm living for me. If he wants to make things work with me, he is going to have to change. I'm done walking on eggshells. I'm done trying to do everything for him. It's up to him. Either we are getting divorced or he is going to have a complete change of heart and it is still a choice he can make.