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[waw1978]

Sure thing. For me, physical space is required because part of what got me here was peaceful co-existance. Even though I was extremely unhappy & dissatisfied with our M I stuck around long after I should have because we were able to function on a day to day basis without confrontation. So in my case, this actually lead to more disdain for my H. We are both conflict avoiders so while "peacefully co-existing" the resentments and hurts continued to grow and fester to the point where I emotionally divorced him. He didn't want to take action when I spoke up. The only thing that got his attention was when I said I was leaving. This was a last ditch effort on my part. But I waited way way too long! This is where as a WAW I feel that I failed. Because I let things get so far gone before I took drastic action that now the road back up the mountain so to speak, is going to be very long and bumpy. My H basically has to start from scratch. I have nothing left in my heart.

As I explained to H, I need to *want* to see him, date him and be near him. Right now, I have no interest and seeing him everyday with all of those annoyances ain't cutting it. Being away and having my own space I can start to miss him (I hope). I haven't read your sitch yet, but in mine there is no OM so time away from H and D4 is generally very lonely. Lots of good self reflection and working on me.

Hope this helps explain what your W might be feeling. I will check your sitch and see if I can ofer any insight for you.