GD I forget how long your W has been seeing OM. Hang in there if you want things to work long term. She wont look back right now because is distracted but one day I guarantee she will. By then it may be too late who knows. All your DB'ing needs to be for you and your kids right now. And keep seeing the IL's they are your kids grandparents , dont talk to them about W if you can help it, make sure they see how well you are coping.
