Well stick to the ones where you got a good response and keep switching up the ones that don't. But also remember to give some changes some time just to see what happens. My thought was that you weren't in comstant contact with her. You also know the inlaws are going to talk so them seeing any difference without you having to tell makes a difference. You say you are in touch with them more so that is where I was going with that but now that I think about it I guess it wouldn't matter much if they aren't in frequent contact.
So...I would just continue to make the changes you want to make for you. after all, you are your best bet.
