Gone Dancin's Dilemma, 2

[Nomopo]

I think I'll keep trying what I'm doing for a while longer and see what happens. I do think that my GALing and round about statement of detaching that was provided to MIL tonight will help plant the same kind of seed of doubt in W that the sitch with her friend potentially did the other night (I also told MIL that the dancing was my new favorite hobby -- which is true). Do you agree or not?

I don't think you're wrong, at all. It's a close call, and yours to make. I guess my concern is I am worried your W will think you've given up and moved on. How certain do you feel that she knows you still would be there is she decided not to walk away?

Remember, Michele says don't be afraid to make a mistake. I think the idea is that usually any damage isn't something that can't be overcome with time. And there are no wrong buttons but the one you keep pushing over and over that doesn't work. If you told your ILs this, and it gets back to W, what's the harm? You said you thought it would enable your W to stay away longer. How bad is that? You have a very long-time horizon anyway. What good might come of it? Well, if she thinks you've given up, then this changes that midnset, and maybe influences her thinking in the future (eg, re: D or other things). Man, I'm not sure, just thinking out loud. But again, if it were me I'd probably do it. I don't see much harm (you've virtually eliminated all chasing for a while), and there is a chance (small?) it could help. I guess the key is again, how sure are you that W knows you are open to working on things?