Gone Dancin's Dilemma, 2

[Nomopo]

Well, I wondered if it might be a good idea to tell them simply that while you know W is not at the same place as you, and while you are respecting her choices and giving her the time and space she needs, you do not want a divorce, and believe that you have changed and that the two of you could work through your problems. Of course, the idea is this will either get back to her quickly or, if and when she does talk to her family, they will have that perspective in mind and can relay it as appropriate. But it could be viewed as pressure, pursuing (not sure if in your sitch if that would be good or bad right now), and I also hear your concerns that this might enable her to keep her distance. Just not sure what the answer is GD. If it were me (and with my W in mind), I would probably say something to the ILs at the next opportunity. Like I said, my W's whole family knows that she is the WAS, and that I want to save the M. I think that is good. I have also told them all she needs her space and not to pressure her. (I'll curious to see if I hear any feedback from her family after this vacation.)

Hope it helps,
Nomopo