Love, what is it, is it real, does it matter?

[MaxP]

my W is trying to clear her mind to understand what she feels and wants. She does not feel an attraction to me, or at least feels that what she feels isn't what she should be feeling (if you get what I mean).

I'm in the same boat, more or less. Too bad our spouses aren't doing the thinking and reading we are and learning that love is a choice.

So we are DBing to make it easier for them to make the choice to love us.

Some interesting issues came up yesterday in our joint C session. She clearly doesn't like thinking about what is going. We also identified some patterns of behaviour between us that would cause a strain. Particularly that she feels she has lost her identity, has changed in what she wants and that she feels like a parent to me. I don't think she sees that there is any point in me being part of her future other than as a potential friend.