We moved W to her new place today , not the easiest thing I have ever had to do. The Kids are still in shock and the 2 younder ones went with us to Mums new place. They are there now spending some time with her. W told me last night that she needs space to get herself sorted out. We talked about all sorts of things , and yes she has noticed changes in me and I didnt get the too little to late speech. She talked about the ADD stuff and told me what she read described me perfectly and how it had hurt her over the years because she saw my inattention as not caring. She asked ( as I said) what if I want to come home? I thought about my answer and that silence upset her , that I did not reply with an instant yes. I just said the door is still a little open. We spent the night in the same bed ( nothing happened but no body pillow this time ). When we moved her to her new place , I had to come home and get some stuff and when I went back I knocked on her door. W said " you should have just come straight in " I said " its your place and I should knock" W said "you are welcome here at any time and you dont need to knock." I think I will still knock. The younger two are staying with her for dinner, she invited me to stay as well , I declined . W said " but you will be on your own" I just said " I have to get used to that" I got a big hug and a kiss when I left.
I can tell you all one thing and that is our R is already much better , the stress has gone. This seperation will be good for us no matter how things go long term.
