sounds like you're focused on what you want out of the relationship, and want to make yourself happy.
thing is, what's going to make your relationship great, is if you both want to try to make the other person happy.
Yes this came up in our conversation, spending time together "enriching" each other's lives. It happens a decent amount but I fail all to often by R talk. I REALLY have to work on this.
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listen to her.
Yep she's telling me EXACTLY what to do to fix this and I keep Fing it up.
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I want so much more and I can see it in her, she does too.
you may, or may not, be right. the thing is.. if you ARE right... she needs to get acclimatized.
erm.... shall we say "foreplay"? (cough)
Now I have never thought of it in those terms but that make really good sense!
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you cant just "jump right in". you have to make her comfortable.
you are so lucky.... she's giving you a chance. Even after your big blowup.
Do whatever is equivalent to a "cold shower" for you, and cool off.
you do not need to go dark. I think you need to learn patience, and learn happiness that stems from making her happy.
I've now heard this or variations on the theme 3 times today. Hello Catfan get it!!
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If she's not seeing anyone else right now... you have a lot to be happy about in that area.
No I do not believe she is and she's said it often enough. I know those involved in affairs will lie but I think she's telling the truth. Although I suspect an EA at one point that may still be petering if it ever actually happened.
That said she's said she's open to reconciliation and open to a romantic relationship again.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
