Some times they are called sex addicts but another counselor I have read....Don David Lusterman in his book "Surviving Infidelity" calls this variant a Don Juana...lots of affairs...most brief...the difference....no shame no feeling of remorse. Maybe confusion...as was said to me...."I probably need help as I have blown a HALF decent marriage".
With all the classic background of a person unable to develop intimacy my seperated ex(my urging...I maybe regret my haste!) had her father leave at near age 2 or 3 and then her mother drop her off one day at the grandparents and leave town for many years! Some classify her as having Sexual Narcissm personality disorder.
What I thought was a good and stable relationship for 9 years(every day started and ended with an "I love you" from her was certainly a sham for 3 years(walk away wife syndrome???) as she says now with great emotion..."you only wanted me for sex".... (Me thinking so you went and had random sex with X???? number of guys instead???)
To summarize...as a newbie out here...aren't these sex addicts/Don Juan and Juanas the toughest to get together with and stay with??? By the way after kicking her out...she is now more involved with her "last" paramour who is the one she really "loves" mopre than ever. As she says..."none of em meant anything till this wonderful man!"(oh he's hitting her by the way. Should I have kicked her out???
There are two wonderful children involved and all sorts of negative repercussions about this seperation...but ..SHOULD I see a small light in the continuing criticism of my attitude towards her during the marriage? Is it worth it to be with this type of person who has high personal sexual esteem but so little general personal esteem?
