I am both glad and sorry for you. Wish this was easy but I can certainly understand your difficulties. One thing I would definitely do is to visit a counselor. They can advise you of techniques to help or, if necessary, could refer you for medication to smooth out the rough spots.
On the flip side, It seems that you have to be open and honest with your husband about your feelings and he is responding. If you feel the anger increasing, go for a quick walk. Count to 10 taking deep breathes. Also, the Internet is a resource. Anything.
You can do this violets. But don't feel like you have to do this without help, hence the recommendation of mental health professionals.
