Sorry. I was speaking of cac's insistance that credibly threatening to leave and putting up with an SSM were the only options for dealing with an SSM.
Thats not what I'm insisting. That's what others are insisting when they tout the IWNLIASM "boundary". I'm saying that there ought to be another way...one that isn't so stark, so extreme, so "black and white". I guess that no one has found one, so the next best thing we can figure out is to take a "threat", and make up a psycho-babble word for it that doesn't sound so bad, and use that instead.
