...If he changes... great, we might play golf together again.
...It's that my actions aren't based on anything he may or may not do.
that's a contradiction.
and why would he have changed before, if (giving him the benefit of the doubt), he didn't really know how much this behavior upset you? why should he change now? if he does, how would you know? you're not golfing with him anymore...you won't see it.
And just because you say "IWNLIASM,' does not mean you HAVE to walk out the door immediately. well, no, there wouldn't be any point, because that phrase is a warning of future outcome. It would be like a cop shouting "stop! or I'll {bang!} shoot!"
To be analagous to your golf boundary, you couldn't deliver it "just before" walking out...it could only be delivered from your new residence (be that a motel room, a depressing appartment, a tramp steamer, or simply a van down by the river), and it would have to be in the form of "I have stopped living in a SM".
So you think that if you say "IWNLIASM," that walking out the door or divorcing her is you only option of action?
That's what you and others appear to be saying.
That's pretty black and white. I can see why this is such a difficult thing for you to grasp. Very binary.
