Love, what is it, is it real, does it matter?

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my W is trying to clear her mind to understand what she feels and wants. She does not feel an attraction to me, or at least feels that what she feels isn't what she should be feeling (if you get what I mean).

I'm in the same boat, more or less. Too bad our spouses aren't doing the thinking and reading we are and learning that love is a choice.

So we are DBing to make it easier for them to make the choice to love us.