We got this convo going because you said that a boundary was the same thing as a threat.
So I give you an example of a boundary, and you tell me it isn't comparable. So, I'll ask again. Where is the threat you saw in what I wrote to my bf.
I thought I explained that. well..that boundary, expressed that way is. It is a statement of a planned, future course of action, based on the other's response, and as such, gives the other a choice, and an opportunity to change. your golf boundary was simply executed without any notice, and gives BF no recourse or opportunity to alter his behavior.
executing "IWNLIASM" that way would require just moving out without the other's knowledge, and them finding out about it by way of being served w/ divorce papers. or the proverbial "going out for a gallon of ice cream, and never coming back". no threat there.
Unless..."IWNLIASM" isn't meant to be actually said to the OP...just an idea or a "mantra" that you say to yourself??? like "The Little Engine that Could"? (i THINK i can, i THINK i can....).
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Life would be far worse divorced than married.
How do you know? Have you and Mrs. Cac divorced? You can only imagine and project. I can do simple math, too, and predict the future w/ alarming accuracy.
And... divorce is only one possible outcome. Like I said, you must have very little respect and faith in Mrs. Cac to think she would let you get to the point of actually divorcing her. well, she wouldn't have much chance, if I just went out for that gallon of ice cream, now, would she?
And you didn't answer my question.
...So. Which, to you, would you be more willing to respond to, or would it not matter to you? I'd respond to either...the trash's ultimate destination might vary, though.
And like I said before, the issue with my bf is NOT about golf.
oh. well, then obviously, I haven't got any idea of what you're talking about. I though he was a great guy in every aspect...except he acts like an azz when you golf...so, no more golf.
