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[waw1978]

I have to laugh GD, whenever I see those initials I keep thinking "Grateful Dead" instead of "Gone Dancin'"

You have been where my H & I are, and have great insight. I am trying to be as patient as possible and I understand that these are "tactics" that make sense to him right now. Thankfully I am here and I have all of you to help me out. I can step back and say, most LBS have done this, without success and eventually "woke up" and started using more productive tactics. It helps to hear that others do the same things and that here you are still working things out.


Yes, I agree filing for the Big D probably wasn't a great idea, but hey you were trying a tactic that you thought would be helpful at the time. Now you know it wasn't and at least you have seen the light and are working hard to restore your M. I guess it happens to the best of us.

Just like as WAW I keep saying to myself, why didn't I just leave him months ago, a year ago, two years ago, before things got so twisted that we are in this mess where there seems to be little hope of recovery. There is always that self doubt, yes I asked for MC time after time, but why didn't I ever just say either we go to MC or I leave. I can't help but feel my share of the blame for detaching, letting go and locking him out of my heart.

I appreciate the post. You give me hope that its just a tactic and that DH will come around again in time.