CeMar acting/feeling trapped, feeling you cant establish boundaries just keeps you in a bad place.
Change one thing in your R with your W. Maybe in 3 months to 3 years something will change.
Three years ago BB was a shopping addict. I said I didn't want to live with a shopping addict and I wouldn't. It took almost two years for her to get her shopping addiction within some boundaries that I can live with.
Two+ years ago I did the food take away thing when she complained about my cooking. Now she eats what I cook or just says no thank you.
About a year ago when she made her list of complaints about eating out, I said I was going to eat out by my self. Now after one veto she has to come up with a place to eat that I like.
Other things happened. Some improved, some got worse. The last was she wanted a new house, I said fine she could live there w/o me.
Is the sex/intimacy better? Not really at this point in time. All I know is not doing anything was killing the R and me.
Now I don't feel like that and I think I see more respect coming from BB. It could be she has some other thoughts in mind.
