I wish your wives all knew exactly how hard you are all working at your M's.
I felt at times I wanted my H to move out so that I could have time to think and also I wanted to see if I could survive by myself. In the long road though I sure an glad we didn't do that - I think it may have been the start of the slippery slope.
Do any of you think that we are having some sort of minor EA's by talking to each other about the things that we do?
I am lucky and able to share most of what I talk about on here with my H as my sitch, on the whole is improving. You do all help loads though and I am so glad I found you and this site.
Theo, I hope your W comes back with a different attitude to the one she left with, otherwise she doesn't deserve you.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I think this board would is an all too easy place for us who are vulnerable to emotionally reach out to people who are in the same place we are. That's probably our spouses found the OP. Good observation.
All of you DB ladies appear, at least online to be wonderful people who take their commitments seriously. That means a lot to us who have been betrayed.
I asked the same question awhile back. I feel (and Theo is most likely going to hit me over the head because I am saying this) bur the difference between our spouses coming on line, finding someone and having an EA. is that they are thinking about themselves. They are only looking for something to make them feel happy. WE on the other hand come here to find someone to help us make our marriages / relationships work. I can not deny I do have emotional feelings for many of you here that have helped me and I hope I have help. But it is more of a brother sister kind of emotional bond. I have not told my W anything about this board. It’s because we have not reached this level of communication. If we had I probably would not be here. Also we can ask questions of the opposite sex here that I for one could not ask in person. It is also a place that people can no hide behind their "everyday I need to survive" attitude. I think it is a little easier for the men on this board to show how we are really little boys inside.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hi H, My thread has locked up and I will take the time later to fill in what has happened lately. I appreciate the offer of your email. I will look and see if I can find it. I have been really busy lately. I think that this board is just helpful to be able to ask questions and read that there are other people out there that are going thru the same situations. Which just amazes me that they all seem to be so close to being the same? That we are all dealing with things that you don't think that anyone else is experiencing. It has really helped me to read other peoples situations and then the great advice that people give. You are doing a great job. It sounds like you are a great dad and are making progress in your life. Good Job.
It is also encouraging to have some one tell you that you aren't crazy that others have experienced the same.
Hope you have a good day and thanks for the wonderful support that you give everyone. It is much appreciated.
For example: I've bonded with you and MC. It's very manly and brotherly. I can't wait to spend a summer with both of you in Montana riding horses and herding sheep.. Mmmmm....mmmmm. Cutoffs and Spandex Skinny-Dude Hotpants.
Did ya hear that being around My W all day yesterday and all I was thinking about was going out Friday? No not to pick up on ladies, but just to go out and have a good time. I also heard that a guy I used to hang out with is going though the same thing I am. I think this may be where my W got the seed planted in her little pea brain. My w works out at the club my friend’s wife runs. Anyway I am going to see if I can get a hold of him today to see if he wants to hang out Friday. W had to go to work today "sigh" was not in a good mood, Oh well my son and I have the day to ourselves.
I am writing a loooooog E-mail for ya so get ready
Your Platonic friend Husband
P.S I know you and MC had a thing going before I showed up so I hope I won't be the third wheel.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Dude, we need a third guy to make a proper man-wich.
MC,
You keep running from, denying and avoiding the fact that you hear the call of the wild, wild west.
You don't need to like horses, you just use them to get you to Brokeback Mountain. You can always dismount. Come to think of it, I think you might look nice in a Royal Canadian Mounted Police uniform. Riding crop and red blazer.
You don't have to herd the sheep on the mountain. Just wash our clothes, have dinner ready when we come in from the long rides, and wear that spandex which makes your a$$ glisten in big sky country. Maybe in the evenings you could share a blanket with Husband and me on alternate nights -- so you won't get chilled.
I hear you make a mean squirrel stew. Come on MC, there's lots of stuff for you to do on the mountain if the manly stuff isn't your cup of tea. Husband and I need someone to soften our edges.
