Very true, if you don't have a plan, you don't see any progress, you won't see any reason to continue. I am hesitant to put out the quick to bail attitude. This is a very frustrating process, so those who can't handle it are quick to bail. I have seen Beingme fight a huge fight. She as at a point in the process where she has to decide what she is able to accept or not. Ideally, her H should get his act together and be trying hard to meet her needs. But as we know here, that doesn't always come when expected.
As an old DB friend of Beingme, I want to see her succeed, but I know she is capable of making her own decision. I try not to push her either way. It sounds like you meant well, it just sounded a little negative and quick to decision, which kind of raised my fur. To me I think Beingme knows what she wants in her R, better than most of us. She also does not seem the type to settle for less. So I think her H needs to step up, take FULL responsibility for his M, or his days are becoming numbered. Which is sad, I hate to see apathy destroy something so important. But this happens too often in everybody's life.
