Em..hang in. I'm burnt also (see my last post). I'm all over the place...even contemplating putting an end date on this myself. So, don't feel alone...only difference is my W drags this out. They say that often...the LBS becomes the WAS. It may be getting close for me.

Our S's bring this stuff up because they must maintain a reason for doing this to us or the guilt would be too great. Sure...we failed in some areas...but they hold onto it and magnify it for justification. Heck...14 months later and my W is still angry and bringing up old stuff. I don't think it's ever going to go away.

There really isn't anything to do but stay strong..stay the course...and, of course, read MinM's advice..keep things legal. Dad's are never going to get a fair shake for the present. Think about me..I have two initial's after my name....they are going to RAPE me when my M goes to D. And...don't go back to the doc thing. Trust me.....it won't last for her. She may not regret this for a few years, but, it'll happen but you will have moved on.

A long time ago, I had a serious GF who suddenly dumped me and split. She got married. 2 years later, she showed up at my W's salon and started 'harassing' my W (looks, comments, etc) while we were engaged. It was clear, in retrospect, that she was seeing who was going to fill the spot she gave up. I heard she got divorced since then. Key: when a relationship begins dishonestly or with an A....the trust will never be the same and most likely it will not last. Don't focus your attention on it now. If I had a choice, I'd stick with focusing on the kids.

I see so much similarity here....hang in Em. I'm behind you too.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;