Greetings! Just unloaded the last of my cyber bags and returned the browser Uhaul back to Newcomers and here I am. I really never thought I would end up here but I am glad to make here. I have waited awhile to make the big move for several reasons...1.I didn't want to jix myself 2.I wasnt sure I was piecing anyway 3. I hate to move! Anyway I will futilely attempt to give the "Readers Digest" version of my sitch. Woke up one morning with my W standing over me saying that she was taking the kids after she gets home for work and divorcing me. Of course she used the "I was never in love with you" speech and then within a week she gutted out the whole house leaving my oldest son (15) and myself. She took the stepson (11) and our youngest(2) with her. I am an alcoholic and so started my taking care of me and I started to attend AA meetings and "living life by lifes terms". I found out through other people that she had started seeing a old high school flame that she had met up with a month earlier at a makeshift "high school reunion". I also later found out they had been chatting online for several months before on classmates.com. All the while she denied this and I just attempted to gal. So several months later more and more information comes out about her ea or pa (she will never admit to any of the details). Om becomes missing and then becomes....dead. Submerged under water in a car (apparent suicide). So she moves back in weeks later and she doesnt seem to be wanting or wrking on our marriage except for the convenience of cutting her bills in half...so I find a person I can talk to and have an ea..because I was giving up and also felt that was what she wanted and she was only buying time for someone else. She didnt like it when she found out and sooooo I havent talked to OW since... Not much of a condensed version but if there is any holes, I have slapped my previous threads down here. So I have come to be with the Sages here and reside in a more "quiet" domain to absorb all the wisdom you guys freely give. Piecing or what I know of it is far more difficult to me than being the left behind spouse. mainly because it's more complex and there seems to be more skeltons that you have to make friends with. So that's the scoop...It's nice to be here...peace
