I really am curious about this... seriously. What is the threat that you see in what I wrote to my bf:
I spent most of the car ride home today thinking very seriously about this, and I've come to a conclusion. I need to cut golf out of our relationship.
I suppose I take the game way too seriously, and because of that, I cannot seem to get around the stress and the angst that seems to consistently appear when we play together. I love golf, but I love you more, so I'm picking you over it.
To me, the subtle but important difference between a boundary and a threat is... a boundary establishes and communicates respect for self. A threat communicates disrespect and disdain for other... even though the end result (end of the R) may end up being the same.
