I am very sorry. I know this is hard. Your H is not where most of us LBS on this board are. But it took many of us a long time to get here. He will "get it" eventually, and I hope it isn't too late.

Did you try any of my suggestions for using your therapist to get through to your husband. That is, getting the therapist on board with DR, and then enlisting T to get through to your husband?

M 39
W 39
M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs
S7 D4
Bomb 5-8-05
W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22
DB 4-10
S 6-11
No more C
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