She had already said D3 wasn't spending the night and the fact that you then turned around and asked her if she wanted to anyway is a move that will get you in more hot water than you can imagine.
Not only were you contradicting your wife and TEACHING D3 how to play you off one another but you straight-up disrespected your wife and I don't care how mad or disappointed you are in her, DON'T DO THAT in front of D3.
