But seriously, I know I can't talk to others like that, but I'd honestly prefer that they talk to me that way.
Oh. Okay. Then get your head out of your AZZ and listen, instead of throwing that deflective engineering bu!!sh!t at me when I make a valid point. Science may not allow for personal bias... but human beings DO... and in the world of human beings, not only is personal bias VALID, to be able to consider another's POV may actually get your sorry AZZ out of that Center of the Universe chair you are so firmly planted in.
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Covering up unpleasantness with flowery words is just another form of deception.
There is an entire profession, called market research, that would completely disagree with you.
In other circles, it's called effective communication. Cac, which would you be more willing to respond to:
"Cac, get your sorry azz off that couch and take out the fcking garbage. NOW!"
OR
"Cac, could you please take out the trash for me? It's overflowing and I need some help."
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anyway... back to what Cemar said, that got me started (again)...
"women only like men that will dump them"
"women are attracted to men who uphold the "IWNLIASM" boundary"
Okay. Barring the discussion on whether those two sentences are synonymous, why do you think this might actually be the case?
Let's put it in another context. Say one of your employees is acting up at work. You like this employee, you went to great lengths to get him... the first few years he was as brilliant as you thought he'd be. Now all of a sudden, he has become a problem employee. If you don't deal with the problem immediately and concisely, what happens? He loses respect for you, and now the problem is far worse. Any time you bring up the issue(s), he looks at you and says... 'what... you're going to fire me? Yeah, right. I'll sue your azz off if you try that.'
Now you aren't such an effective boss, are you? And really, who's fault is it?
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I just have a hard time accepting that folks in these groups are doomed to live in misery, having no other recourse.
Well, like I've said... you (proverbial 'you') must not have a whole lot of respect for your wife if you think she is any less willing to hold together your marriage than you are.
Yet, you never play that card (for you, cac: I'm dumping your sorry azz) because this is the exact thing that you fear... she's going to LET YOU do it.
Which AGAIN, brings up back to the REAL issue... LACK OF RESPECT and effective communication/problem solving.
And in my book, you can't solve a problem that you can't even identify. CeMar STILL thinks his problem is that he can't get the desire he wants from his wife, for god sake's.
But until you DRAW THE BOUNDARY that demands the respect of giving you their full attention...
Cac, if it makes you feel better calling it a threat... then call it a threat. But if your wife doesn't respect you, and all you can do is sit and whine about it, explain to ME why I should see you in any other light than a sorry azz loser? Who I'm staying with because I said I'd be in it for the long haul.
