You can look up my early posts...from when I first started coming here...they are archived as I know another poster found them...if I told you all the absolutely insane things my H did...you can read them as I am sure I posted most...you would question my sanity in taking him back...
You don't gain control by filing...I thought it would give me control but it didn't...and sometimes it makes you feel more out of control...besides...this isn't about controling...you H may use that as his power tool but you don't have to be controled by him or his actions..
Many a man said the same thing when they heard my H had left...all I could say was he was insane...and I now KNOW for a fact that he was insane...he is doing so much better now but it is with the help of his primary doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist...and he was a man who would have NEVER EVER gone to counseling of any kind...so this still blows me away...
Yes, your situation is different in that it was early in your marriage....but not so early in comparison to your relationship...it is the same in that it appears you were high school sweethearts...my H and I met at 15/19....married 18/21...
I also understand the emotional hit this takes on you...I was always a very confidant, I can conquer anything, sort of woman...I am still working on getting that back...
All I can tell you is that it is still early to say all is lost...and still a lot of time to you to work through things for yourself...
