In need of help

[sadhearted]

Well each time he's left it's been according to him a different reason. 1) he didn't think me and his son was getting along well enough (unrealistic expections of what our realstionship would be) That was for about 2 days. 2) was for a week and he just didn't think we were getting along 3) was for 2 weeks he didn't know if he loved me 4) was for 2 months. He loved me but he wasn't in love with me and again mine and my stepsons relationship. Though me and someone else made the statement to him that was just an excuse and since 2 people said this it made him stop and think. 5) this time he feels like he doesn't have a partner in life and that I don't care about him. Now I am partially to blame because I wasn't meeting all his needs and now I'm working on bettering myself. I have apologized but when I did his attitude was too little too late.



Yeah I know that's why people keep telling me just give him time he'll be back. Just hard for me to sit here and believe that cause I'm on the brutal end of this.


Well when he was growing up his parents let his older brother beat him up and did nothing but say so hit him back. And I'm not talking about just playing normal brother stuff. His dad was never around so it was pretty much his mom that raised him and she's kinda crazy. She favored his older brother and to this day my H will tell you his parents don't love him. About 3 years ago he stopped talking to them completely because they have 6 grandkids but appear to only care about one (being my stepson) they have never liked any girls their sons would bring home and once they actually married they really didn't like us.

He and his first wife knew each other for 6 weeks then got married. She then got pregnant a few months later. They were married about 5 years and 4 out of 5 years was bad. She ended up having an affair and telling him she didn't want to be a wife and a mother and kicked him and their son out.


I think he has a lot of emotional scars from all of this. Sometimes I wonder if he's not trying to destroy our marriage before I do. Not that I have any intention of doing so but for him at least he'd be ending it on his terms... I could be way off though.