GK,

You said:
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I am torn between "standing" and just giving up. I honestly have no idea how to stand anymore.

Standing is simple. All it means is that you see yourself as married and live accordingly.

Rejoice ministries sums it up in this link:
Rejoice Ministries - Standing
Why is that difficult for you?

Now, if you don't want to do that and you are divorced, that is ok too. But you have to do with your own feelings.

And should you decide not to stand, keep in mind the words of George Washington:
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It is our true policy to steer clear of permanent alliances with any portion of the foreign world.
Steer clear for a while. Be a free man. I am now into the 7th year of divorced bliss. It is very freeing. (No. I am not saying you have to live like me.)

Allow yourself to be ok and you will be ok.

IMP