New to this.....feeling down

[OneWish]

This picking up daughter and dropping her off is getting ridiculous.

I can totally relate. I haven't read your whole sitch. How old is your daughter?

But I didn't criticize her place at all....she obviously sees potential in that junk.

Good move. You should have found a way to say something positive about her place or something. My W moved into a new house too and I complimented her on it. The only problem with it is, it is so small and is 2 stories. I am barely moving out of my parent's house into a nice apartment complex and I am sure this is going to bother my W because she knows that there are a lot of single women in the complex. I am already fighting off women at work. This has helped immensely with my self-esteem. Part of my GAL is this new apt and just being friends with females. This helps your confidence and you are able to see that there is nothing wrong with you. Your W just has low self-esteem and is blaming you for everything. She is not willing to look into the mirror.

I feel like I am divorced yet still in her life due to my daughter.

You will ALWAYS be in your daughter's and W's life. They are so weird. Unless there is affairs or extreme abuse, nobody should D. You two will always be together and that is why people always get back together. A piece of paper is not going to change anything.