Just my two cents...when I was at that point of giving up and moving on I did...I don't think it has anything to do with dating, bar scenes, or another person in anyway...moving on is living your life for yourself...and GAL is along the same lines...no need to be partying yourself out, or trying to meet someone...
I have been fortunate enough to have my H come home...it was a long journey...but I have also changed the way I think and feel in our new R/M vs our old one...I don't live "for" him...I live "with" him...I do the things I enjoy even if he doesn't...I have my own life and I will always maintain that...my GAL didn't end when H came home...
So don't fret about what to do and where to go...do what YOU enjoy...moving on doesn't even necessarily mean giving up...although you feel that way right now...I know I did...
I also understand the questions of how do you ever respect a man who could leave his family and children...my H left and in the course of over 18 months MAYBE saw my son 5 times...rarely called...didn't send much support and for the last year he was away none!...but it is very hard to explain...I do have a renewed respect for him...he is different then he was, we both are...he is working on being a better person even if he doesn't realize it consciously...I can honestly say our marriage is growing into something deeper and better...not perfect...but we both have grown, learned, and survived...
So move on...GAL...but don't feel pressured to have to get involved with anyone...just find your own self and enjoy being you...
