The fact that he keeps contacting me makes them think he's not done.
I have learned that statemens are questions. When they say they are done, leave me alone, etc. This is really a question of them asking themselves, Am I really done? If they are done, then they would stop making these same statements over and over. It is like they are trying to cconvince themselves to be done. For example, if you don't like garlic, you are not going to keep telling yourself and everyone in the world that you don't like garlic. You'll try it, then say you don't like it and not keep repeating yourself. This is total confusion on spouses parts. They don't see the contradiction in what they say.
Don't believe any of what they say. They are not speaking from their head. They are speaking from their negative feelings that they are creating misery inside of their head.
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
