Is this normal, even separated we have talked every day even if it about nothing but our son, then complete silence.
Hang in there. Yes, it is normal for you both. You both are humans. Just remember, that your W is not the only one experiencing these feelings. She is also having a tough time. You two have so much history, it is hard to start over. I went out last night with some females friends who were in long-term relationships and ALL they kept saying was that they hate dating. They ALL want stability. They want the right guy. You were doing things right to marry your wife. You have proven yourself that you are a good husband. Your W knows this. Just hang in there and let her see you being happy. Don't call her.
I see my W about 4-5 times a week exchanging D3 and I know that I am ALWAYS on her mind. She too, acts nervous. Like today, I am not sure if you saw my recent post, but I picked up D3 and my W and I spoke about D3's difficulties and I keep saying the common theme that D3 is going to be affected. This is reality. I think it is starting to sink into my W's head. We left and D3 and W were both crying. W calls me 20 minutes later 2 times to check up on D3. I didn't answer the phone call. I called back an hour later and told her how difficult it was for D3 and that she is doing great now. I did backslide trying to rationalize, W got upset. We then hung up. Guess who is thinking about me 30 minutes later. My W! She sends me a text complaining. I just ignored the text. I don't believe anything that she says. I am watching her actions. She is emotional and crying. This is hard on her and it is hard on your W too, I'd imagine. My W is so co-dependent on D3. I showed grace and poise to just let her negative text go! she is not going to ruin my day and time with D3. I have options and I am starting to feel in control of my life. I was invited to a 4th of July BBQ/Pool Party with some good friends and I had the option of spending time with D3. Of course I chose D3. It is all part of GAL, making yourself happy and then others will want you to be around them too.
You are on your W's mind several times a day.
Have a Great Day!
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
