D Busted...Now Back Here

[OneWish]

I texted my W to let her know that I will pick up D3 today. My W calles and says, to call her before I come because she may not be home. I said okay. I then texted her (she doesn't always answer). I drive 30 minutes to her neighborhood and she calls and says, where are you. I told her I am in front of your house. She said, I am 30 minutes away and I will be heading over towards your side of town shortly. I am pissed. I thought before I spoke. Why couldn't my W tell me, hey, I will be in this area? I then meet her to pick up D3, I said it is not worth it to argue over this.

I get there and D3 is crying. My W said that D3 said that she doesn't want to go watch fireworks with me. My W said that D3 should have a say, if she doesn't want to go, then she shouldn't have to go. I told my that the other night D3 was crying because she didn't want to leave me to go home, she was happy. My W turns around in her car and asks D3 if she didn't want to come home the other night (WTF!). D3 was still crying during this whole time. I told my W, give D3 a hug, she is always fine, this is just hard on her because she wants to be with both of us and she is torn. My W said that we need to look into whether D3 wants to go or not. I told my W that I regret my mistakes and a D3 is having a hard time because this happens with a D. My W then stated to not even bring that up. I told her to give D3 a kiss and hug so we can leave because this is making it even more difficult. I take D3 and hand her to my W, she gives her a hug. I put D3 into her car seat and my W is looking out through her window with sad puppy eyes. I am thinking to myself, this is what YOU are CHOOSING to do. D3 is crying until we get home. My W calls two times, I didn't pick up the phone. She leaves a VM asking how D3 is doing. I told her she just stopped crying and now she is doing well and is happy. My W suggested that we look into D3 having what she wants, i.e. if she doesn't want to leave. I said, we also need to look into how D affects kids. My W said don't even go there. I said she wants both of us to live together, she wants me to spend the night, she is asking and wanting a lot, but unfortunately, she can't have what she wants. I then told my W that I, D3, and she had fun at the circus, right. W said that she went when asked if she had fun.

W then texts me, "Honestly. Ur effin nuts talking about how divorce affects kids wen ur the 1 who left us + u were telling D3 u were gonna get an apt + she'd have her own room! ooh! U have no idea."

I chose to cease communication. I am ignoring her and going dark from here on out. To address her text. Last time, it was fine because she kicked me out! How selective her memory is. This time I leave because I am being treated like crap. I try to come back 2 weeks later and she tells me she is done after me being gone 3 days. I did make the comment about the apt, after my W made a comment about me needing a court order to see D3. I was just reacting out of emotions. Now, she will have her OWN room in my new apt. Seems like my W has a difficult time knowing that I am a man and capable of supporting myself and D3. She is upset now that I am in an apartment complex and there are other people there who will show interest in me.

I just need to stop responding and reacting to whatever she says. Just agree and shut up.

I went out with some friends at work and had a great time. I heard so many good things about me that my head was about to explode...lol...I am going to enjoy the rest of my day with D3 and now let my W affect my mood or time with D3.