Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

Journaling:
Past few days have been fairly flat for a rollercoaster ride. W has been up and down, but mostly just emotionless when I am around.

I had one bad interaction with her:
SD: The kids have been watching TV continuously since I got home.
W: Yeah.
SD: Did they do anything else all day?
W: (very defensively) L&G came over and they played all day!
SD: Sorry, I did not mean to upset you. I was just asking! (I left the room to go practice violin in my bedroom.)

Not a serious backslide, but pushed her buttons unnecessarily. Got to work on that one.

Otherwise, GALing is going good. I have been watching the Copa America matches all week with some neighbors which is mostly fun, but not getting as much sleep as I would like!

I did my first 3 sport workout today. I did 1500m in the pool, 1 hour spinning class and ran a 10k. It went well until about 15 min left in the run when I hit the wall. It took all I had (and a prayer) to keep going, but I finished without slowing down. Really a good way to work on your self-control.

One nap, 2 advil, 3 glasses of water and about 1500 calories of carbs later and I am feeling much better, thanks!

Also got some fireworks to shoot off with the kids this evening if it ever stops raining.

On other fronts, W and I have agreed on dates for our planned vac. to TX. She will be there for 2 wks with the kids while I go on a bus. trip and then when I get back, I will take 2 wks vacation. We agreed to drive out and stay at the beach on the way there for 2 days. She will spend some time alone with her family (and prolly OM). My parents have offered to keep the kids for as much time as we want, so W is thinking to take them up on that as well.

We will see how this goes, but I see it as mostly positive stuff. I am also thinking of a 40th B-day party for meself with a lot of friends from growing up. Not sure exactly how to swing this, but it will workout somehow.

The only thing that is really bugging me right now is finances. W has shown no inclination to look for a job and her car is really old. I have no intention of buying her a new one, but I am jonesing to get an SUV and a jetski in a bad way. The fireworks from this I just don't want to see!

Anyway, my current use of the DO NOTHING strategy is leading me to just be patient about this whole topic. Eventually, she will have to do something.

Of course, my alter ego wants to take over the family finances, close credit cards, open new bank acct in my name only , and not give her any money at all, even do the grocery shopping myself!

This urge is esp. strong after she just got back from the salon with an especially ugly, $140 haircut and dye! When I saw this, all I could say was "Oh, you got your hair done!"

Anyway, enough rambling for now.

Happy 4th everybody!!!

SD