Stewart, I was reading your sit and to me it does sound your wife is depressed. My H was also, and he would alot talk about how it would be better for him to be on his own, and it was not good for anyone to be around him. He did get some help both from a IC and medication and it does seem to have helped him. So if your wife does follow that part threw it should offer some help. Its very hard to deal with someone who is depressed, go to web sites, and read all you can about it, it not only affects the person, but everyone around them. The key to remember is that it is an illness, and should be treated as such, if it truly is depression there is not alot they can do to control it until they get help, and once they do it will be a slow process. For me the turn around came when on my way home from work H called and said he had left me, did it over the phone because he couldn't face me, he thought he could stay with his parents and it would all be peachy. His parent were fine with it until they learnt that I in fact had not agreed to any separation, and he had told me over the phone, so they told him to go home and work it out. He called me to see if he could sleep on the couch, when he said it was just for somewhere to sleep I said no. End of contact. He did try to call a couple more time, however I stood my ground and didn't talk to him. He called the next morning wanting for us to meet and talk about the marriage, and now we are back together. Today he told me he would never leave me again because he loved me to much! So patience, patience, patience, and somewhere in there alittle wake up call that will scare them to the sense's!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
