Two things. First, if she asks about the changes you are making, just say you have taken a hard look at yourself and you are really woring on becoming the person you want to be, for you. Second, I don't know that she'll recognize the technique, but if she does I don't think it is bad. Just keep it short and sweet with her. Listen, mirror (though you can lose this if it feels to forced), and validate. I'd only empathize with any feelings she offers up. Pushing for her emotions can be great, but not necessary. Go with your gut on empathy, but mirror any emotions she offers.

Good luck!

Last edited by Nomopo; 07/04/07 06:14 PM.
M 39
W 39
M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs
S7 D4
Bomb 5-8-05
W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22
DB 4-10
S 6-11
No more C
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