That is great! The thing that is hard for her is that she is a therapist. The W works mainly with anger management, drug abuse, domestic violence, so she teaches many of these skills and will see when I am using them, but it will show my effort and allow her to express her feelings and emotions.
I had to read your post 3 times to fully comprehend how I go about doing this. W and I are very much polor opposites and I have never attempted to work on these things. She has already taken notice that I'm working on things, and thinks I'm doing well in terms of handlig everything. I just keep telling her I'm thinking things through and working on becoming a better person.
Well I'm sure I will have plenty of opportunity to start practicing this today. She is coming buy, she said she may come by since she needs the internet in my office, so that will be nice. Plus tonight at the fireworks.
One thing that has become very interesting is she is upset about me not being man enough. My parents have really helped us through this last year of graduate school, and I owe them some money. She has always been very independent and she said it is hard for her to understand my family, we are all very close. I have two great brothers who have helped and I help with anything.
So the irony in this is that she is upset, and thinks there is co-dependence with the family. I see her point and agree. Well, the OM (if I can call him that) is a trust funder, has no job, drives a "very nice car" in her words and lives in a large house in a resort town. It is puzzling to me how she can see clearly with me, but with him she is in the clouds. I guess thats what happens when someone else fulfills your W EN.
The picnic and castle is perfect! She is coming out but she runs back. Just got to keep having a good time at the picnic!!!
