Can be a tough sell in many ways, although easier in others. Good job!
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I don't think of it as manipulation. I think of it as putting the Charm out there.
I agree with that -- guess I couldn't come up with a better term or a better way to describe it at the time, but it certainly does fit into the manipulation category by Michele's definition (and I think in a + way). I figure that if W and I were to work things out, I would need to be more open and friendly with her friends anyway because this is something I realized a little while back that I rarely did. I was often critical of her friends too, so I think last night was a 180 in that old behavior. It felt good and I think I'll add it to my change list (should've done it before).
Journaling,
W dropped the kids off a little after 6:00 this morning. I answered the door kind of half awake, so I wasn't really thinking clearly. After she gave the kids hugs and told them goodbye, she looked up at me, pointed at her face with both hands and with a sort of embarrassing laugh said, "Yeah." At first I thought she was kind of apologizing about her hair or something because she hadn't done it yet, so I just "That's okay." Then she said "It's been a bad 3 weeks." Then it dawned on me that she was talking about the absess on her nose, but I couldn't see it very well so I didn't even notice at first. However, being sleepy I didn't even think to say anything like, "I'm sorry," or "Is it getting any better (meaning the days or weeks)," or "What did the Dr. say?", etc. In fact, I don't think I said anything except maybe "that sucks," -- and I'm not even sure about that. We then said goodbye and she left.
I think the fact that she seemed concerned and/or a little embarrassed about me seeing her face also says that my opinion about her looks matters to her, though I might be over-emphasizing this thought as a positive.
