Pick up the pieces when you go

[RedHeadWife]

I'm reading "After the Affair" and in one part I just read, it addresses staying for the children and how to deal w/ that. There must be lots & lots of other books out there just on dealing w/ the children when D is imminent.

I so understand what you're talking about though. My H's dad, when H talked to him about wanting a D, told him that whatever happened between the two of us was between the two of us, but he needed to know that his R w/ the boys would never be the same. My H's parents are D'd so he knows first hand.

I also know kind of first-hand in a round about way how it affects the boys. H is deployed for a year and I'm having to just deal w/ H being gone and how it affects the boys. I can't imagine how it would be if H was here and we were going through a D and how to explain that!

Anyway, hang in there and just love your girls! It will all work out in the end, however the end is meant to be, and you all will be stronger for it. If it helps at all know you have lots of people thinking of you, even people here on the Boards who don't really know you!!!