W called today around 5:00 (I was able to answer this one, which I did) and asked me if it was okay to drop the kids off at 6:00 a.m. tomorrow morning because she has to be to work early. I said that's fine, I'll be ready. She did seem pretty flat tone-wise, but I stayed friendly and upbeat with the very small talk involved. Again, she's having to do the contacting, and I'm being short on words and staying confident.
I called a good friend of mine tonight (went to H.S. and wrestled together), and took him and his fiance to dinner. I haven't seen them in 3-4 weeks, and part of that is because his fiance and my W work together and are pretty good friends. So, I decided to do a little indirect manipulation (remember Michele's definition of this word) during the evening. Friend's fiance and I have never clicked real well (she's kind of verbally abusive and controlling with my friend), but I decided that it wouldn't hurt to make a good impression with her and maybe the fiance would end up putting in a good word with W.
When I got to their house, I was happy and confident right off the bat. I focused on my friend's fiance's job -- asked how it was going, what hours she was working now, if she liked it, etc. I stayed thoroughly engaged and was an active listener during this time and the whole night. We also talked about my trip to Hawaii (she is Hawaiian and from Oahu, which is where I was). We laughed and joked about it a lot, and joked a lot throughout dinner too. She even made some comments about my tan and how I've filled out some (gained 20 lbs in 2 months -- I'm kind of lean, so I've been working out a lot and trying to put on the weight). She also mentioned she'd "double take" if she didn't know me and saw me somewhere (and yes my friend was there -- they are both comfortable with comments like these, so it was okay). I simply said, "Thanks. I appreciate that."
Well, after dinner we got back to their place and friend's fiance got a text -- guess who? Yup, my W. They texted back and forth for a while as my friend and I bs'd and got ready to play some PS2 golf. Then the fiance said we could play golf because she was going over to my W's place (which means she wasn't at OM's house, and earlier in the night it was strongly insinuated that W wasn't at his house last night either -- made me feel better in lieu of recent events that some of you are aware of). Before she left, my W continued to send her several texts, and friend's fiance said "Geeze W, I'm coming!" Fiance then said she didn't know how long she'd be gone (it was a little after 9:00 by this point), so don't wait up for her. I acted "as if", and when she left just said, "Later. It was nice seeing you." She said bye, thanked me for dinner and left.
Friend and I then played golf, and when we were done I left. I never mentioned W throughout the entire night and just acted "as if". Man did it all feel good!
I don't know what friend's fiance will say to W, if anything (she does tend to be quite a gossiper though, so I'm guessing she will say some things, and I KNOW they will all be good!). I also am trying not to read into what the back and forth texts could be about. All I can think is either about me or something about OM (please be something bad about OM!!!!!).
I know that I'm probably blowing all of this out of proportion, but I'm very happy about everything tonight. Trying to plant as many seeds of doubt in as many different places as possible, while all the while LRTing and staying dark as possible.
