I like the neutral day, and I see your point on meeting that goal. I do have them listed, I actually created a check list in word to mark off, and I have major goals 1) A loving fulfilling relationship! Not the exact language. Then minor, weekly, and prior to any meeting I have situation goals. So far I'm hitting about 80%. No arguements for two days for instance.
Your advice is amazing, helps keep a chin up. I do have a major concern before tommorow's outing.
She can not stop about the R/M and the issues. I try and be supportive and have read most of DR. But I'm still lost on what to do when it comes up. I just node my head, I don't dismiss, I don't say sorry anymore, just listen. But I don't think it is helping to listen, I think she is trying to justify her actions. She is very diplomatic about it, "It's me, not you." But I think by being an outlet I'm letting her justify, what do I do, 1) continue on this path of just listening, 2) Get up, walk away and go do something else! I don't want to turn her off on letting her know I'm an outlet, but at the same time I'm just eating crow during these convo's.
Sorry I haven't hit the castle picnic post. I'm trying to read your posts from start to front.
