I just want her to come home!

[Nomopo]

Oh Atlas, my friend, I know the emotions are tough to handle, but really, this isn't bad. It's normal, and you will get plenty more, but you can handle this part easy!

It has been to early to get the rollercoaster message. I thought it meant the drama, but I think it is the up's and down's and DB'ing working and then the slide backwards, which tonight was a slide down.

Yes, it's the ups and downs of the emotions, and the good days when you see progress and then the inevitable retreat. In my current thread (I think from last Thursday or Friday), I shared some comments my DB coach made about the castle and the picnic. Check it out if you haven't. That hits the target in describing what happens (and it happened to you today a little, I think).

So I had the S tonight, we had a great time. Only downer was that he kept reapting "Mommy cries." I feel so bad he has to see this, and that she is going through this as well. I'm just down, no way to explain it.

That's very fair. This is tough. No easy answers. Just have to deal. Accept it, and try not to dwell on it more thatn you have to. Sorry.

After a great night last night, partial movie, good convo, all the great stuff, today was the craps. No calls, plea for help, nothing. At the pick up it was "Pass me the salt!" I loaded the boy in the car seat and stood and waved.

Atlas, a quiet day is not the craps. It's really not bad. She needs her time and space. You gave it to her. Good for you. And more than likely good for your sitch.

Don't take it personally. Really, despite anything she might say, this is about her sorting it all out, not you. Craps is when you fight, when you snoop, when she yells, and generally you two have negative interactions. Quiet, no talk days are not negative interactions. They're nuetral days (and actually positive in that they are necessary to healing). Make sense? You should feel good about quiet, no negative days. You advanced your cause today my friend.

I know I can't expect the ring back for a long time, but that is just killing me and she is flaunting it like a new found puppy.

I hear you. Try to put this out of your mind. Maybe you need a long-term goal to help your patience. How about a goal of she puts her ring back on by January? Then maybe it will bother you less when you see it off now.

On a good note, I was to take the S to the parade tomorrow morning and she was going to take him to a firework show in the evening. When we checked online for times, well the town parade is at 6pm and fireworks after some other festivities. She didn't think our plan would work and asked if I would like to take them out for the evening. I would say it is a good sign, but her deamenor during the idea was like well I guess we do this!

Now it wasn't not only a bad "crap" day, or even a neutral day, but a good day! And ignore the demeanoer - that's the alien my friend. Do you have specific goals? This would have met one of mine.

I just have to keep moving forward, hour by hour, day by day. My GAL is slowly coming together but is tough with how much I realize I invested in my career and friends have families of their own.

Good attitude. Onward and upward. And I hear you about friends - I am shocked I have so few single friends.

Good luck,
Nomopo