IThink they don't think about it because: 1. They are on a "high". They are so caught up in what they are doing in the present they have forgotten the past. 2. They know we will take care of the kids.
I was afraid that my girls would like their mother more than me because I had custody of them; I was the one who had to tell the no. I was the one who made them go to school. She was the one who bought those toys. Took them to the Park. (Of course this was only for a few months then she stopped seeing them).
But know that they are 22 & 25 they know who took care of them. They know where their "birth mom" lives but have NO interest in seeing her. I can't imagine knowing I have two adult kids somewhere in the world and don't even know what they look like.
Your kids will be fine. Life will be different but as long as they have you every thing will be OK. I actually think it was better in my sitch that My XW was out of the picture totally.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
