UL, so nice to see you piecing. Congrats! I think what you are feeling is the normal anxiety of a post-A spouse. How do you build trust again? It's a tough go. I believe there is a book called "After the Affair" and that may be of help. There are a few out there which discuss how to repair things. Can I assume H has not said two words about the A to you and most likely carries on as though is never happened? That is tough, but pretty normal. The spouse is embarrassed, may not know why it happened and wants to put it behind him. The wronged Spouse is left carrying the baggage and wanting to put the pieces together in order to heal and prevent a repeat performance. So, you're just going through what I'm sure a majority of cheated on spouses go through. Can you tell him what he could do to make you feel better when he is away on these trips. Remember in a R you have the right to needs being met too and he has an obligation to keep you feeling secure. Now, whether he realizes that, who knows but you have to tell him what you need also. "Trust me" jsut ain't good enough! How's the baby doing?
