Wife had an affair with OW

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OK we had our second session with the counselor. We didn't go into the topics I wanted to, but it was a good session. We mainly did a communication excercise and it was OK. Am I wrong to think that we should be talking about the actual affair or should I continue to go with what the counselor wants to cover? He is the professional on this and not me.

My main stuggle now is that it seems that the W doesn't seem to be doing anything outside of the counseling to work on our issue. To phrase it better, it bugs the heck out of me that she pretends that everthing is back to normal. She did something that turned my world upsidedown and now she is actually reaping benefits from it. I am cleaning the house like crazy and attending to her every need. I am doing everything possible to make this work and now I am getting mad that she doesn't show any hurt from it. Before the A, I wouldn't want my wife to experience any saddness and now I wish she would. Is it OK to feel this way? Sometimes I want to just leave and see if she would fight to get me back.