Sol, Have you thought about a legal seperation for now? Just another thought. One step short of a D and not much different in my opinion. But it is another option other than a D that seperates you from her finacially as well as settles the custody issue. Pretty much says everything in a legal form that you want with out an actual D,
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."