I was thinking that you could DB & not risk it until pretty close up to the D date to establish some good feelings between you.
I think this is probably the best thing to do.
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The difference in having your L send a request & you doing it in person is the difference, no.
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Maybe. I had discussed this issue initially with my DB coach (who I can't talk to until next Tuesday -- damn), and was going to bring it up to her. Then I decided that it might not be a good idea because it was R talk, so I decided that having it go through our L's was best. Maybe it wasn't, but I figured having W hear it from her L and thereby giving her time to think about it without the pressure of me being present might help. Obviously it didn't, but that was my thinking.
I think that maybe 2 weeks before the final D date, I will try to approach her about it.
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It would have to be a well thought out & sincere approach, coupled w/a strong/confident man attitude.
I agree -- got any suggestions as how to go about blending these?
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I think I would weigh it out & be prepared that it might not be greeted the way you wish for.
Oh I KNOW it won't, but I've still got to do this for ME -- for my peace of mind. One thing I think I need to do when this time comes, however, is to stay in the "Act As If" frame of mind, and this will help in the whole confidence part.
