Dude, y'all are in a cycle that has remained static and become a rut.
She does something or doesn't do something, you react accordingly, she responds to that, ad infinitum ad nauseum.
That is a negative cycle leading y'all down the wrong road. The only way to break it is to break it whether you feel like it or not.
If you are someone who wears a wedding because you're married, then put the ring on. If you don't want to wear a ring no matter if or who you're married to, then never put it on again.
You wear pants at work. You wear a ring if you're married. Put it on and don't say a word. If she brings it up, simply say, "I'm a married man so I wear my ring." That's not putting pressure on anyone. You didn't wear the ring because you had feelings for her (because you had those before the wedding, right?), nor because she had feelings for you (ditto)...but because you stood up in front of God and everyone and committed yourself. The ring is a symbol of that commitment. You're still committed (right?), so the ring is appropriate.
No offense, but doing this stuff in order to initiate conversations is a cheeseless tunnel. Do it because it means something to you, and do it without expectations of anything reciprocal.
This all feels so complicated, I know, but you've got to get to a place where it's simple, where you're doing things because you want to, and that's all. Just detach and do, bro, detach and do because you want to and it's the right thing...not to cause some desired result.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
