OF, thank you for commenting. I rarely get on here but I think it helps to come back here and there to update and get updated. What you said about living together prematurely really makes me think because I do feel we need to live together to iron out some things. Here's my thought process:

H and I were talking in the car after getting back from a movie on Sunday. After some conversation H admitted his major reluctance in my moving home is that he is afraid the changes are not permanent. After explaining that I am happy with my changes and plan on making sure they stick around he seemed more at ease but still was not totally sure. Living together and proving the changes are for real and permanent seems to be the only thing left to do. We agreed to give it a rest for the evening and chat more about it on Wednesday after going to a friend's BBQ and watching fireworks.

Now...after hearing this and H say he wanted our M to work \:\) , I don't think I will be too upset if H wants more time to be alone. To be completely honest, this is my timeline because I am choosing to move from the room I rent. It was my decision because I am not happy there (distance from work/friends, roommate, etc) and making H decide on our future because of that is a type of controlling. I think I would actually be relieved to hear him say he is NOT ready as that will give me a chance to be fine with it and reiterate that I have changed!

SO SORRY to hear about where your sitch! It will take some hunting but I will find you thread somewhere on here. You are in my thoughts and I appreciate your taking the time to come here and comment on my thread.

Patience and diligence...
My Sitch